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Wedding Cake Guide

The wedding cake is an essential part of any wedding. The style and the flavor of the wedding cake is dictated by fashion, and it's totally up to future newlyweds to decide whether they want several cupcakes layered to resemble a wedding cake or they want an imposing three-storey individual wedding cake.

Wedding cakes remain an essential part of the celebration, and there are many traditions that go along with the wedding cake. For example, the bride will never bake her own wedding cake, and all unmarried girls who attend the wedding will take home a piece of the wedding cake to put under their pillows that night in order to dream of their future spouses.

Cutting the wedding cake is another timeless tradition that should not be neglected. According to one legend, Romans broke loaves of bread over the bride's head. A large number of resultant crumbs signified a large family for the new couple. The early Britons offered baskets of crackers for guests to take home; this evolved into the practice of carting home a piece of the wedding cake and putting it under one's pillow. These loaves of bread and offerings of crackers eventually evolved into larger cakes to accommodate greater number of guests.

Originally, a top layer of the wedding cake is to be saved and then used as a christening cake for a baby. After the wedding, the icing was removed and the wedding cake was preserved in a special brandy-soaked fabric for nine months, or maybe longer. Today, many brides and grooms prefer to save the top layer for the three-month anniversary, because wedding cakes do not last too long in the freezer.

The wedding cake looks best placed in the central location and the best time to cut it naturally is when the dessert is to be served. Traditionally, the bride and the groom cut the cake shortly before they left, but today it is good enough to stick to another tradition: cutting the wedding cake from the bottom layer and feeding slices to each other. Then a professional server cuts the wedding cake, which is either served to each guest or left in the buffet so guests would help themselves. Slices of a wedding cake may be boxed and presented to guests (not only women) as a favor when they leave a reception.

The groom's wedding cake was often sliced and given to guests to take home as a favor. Today the groom's wedding cake often honors groom's hobbies or interests. It's not uncommon to have a cake in a shape of a fish for those who loves fishing, or as a team mascot for aspiring sportsmen or sports fans. The possibilities are endless, although the chocolate is often the icing of choice for groom's wedding cake. This cake can also be sliced after the wedding cake and offered as a desert option.

Traditionally, the wedding cake cutting ritual happens closer to the end of the reception, after guests have danced-off dinner. It's often a signal that the reception is coming to an end. As a rule there's 45 minutes left of dancing after the cake has been cut. Customarily, the groom puts his hand over the bride's, and they slice through the cake's bottom layer with a fancy knife. After photos are taken, the bride and the groom might want to serve slices to your in-laws before the rest of the cake is cut for all other guests.

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